Menu color problem.

I'm hesitant to ask having had problems before with Vis C# colors and having asked about them in this forum, but...

My menu looks great with the RenderMode set as ManagerRenderMode and custom colors to blend with my form's color. However take a look at this image and you'll see that the word 'File' has gone grey, the menu items when selected have gone white, as seen by the 'Set Output Folder' in the image, but not the activated menu item on the menu bar itself.

http://www.zilefile.com/files/9051_wifqz/Menu_Cap.jpg
[Note: The cap is not very good it does not look all that grey, rest assured that in reality it looks a lot more grey.]

Is there a way of changing this?

It's like Vis C# says "ok you can set a menu color, but when it comes to the menu bar item highlighted we'll just give you the system default color". If a user's default for this is bright red, then it is going to look terrible. Or am I wrong, is it not the default system color, and the grey that I'm getting is just coincidence cos that's my system's default?

As always, many thanks.