I realized many people just pretended to act differently, the way they actually never meant to, o

If one is serious while the other is not, then the serious one should suffer a lot. Why is "that other guy" just so arse-holed ? Is that ue to the culture he lives in ? Definitely not. If he is free and has nothing to fill up his emptyness, I suggest heading into an online game, reading a book, for example.